Turns out she was referring to using the word "sharp" to describe someone of the opposite sex, as in whether that person is date-able.
At first, I thought a sharp person is someone with the four "A's" - Accomplished, Ambitious, Attractive, and Affluent. The perfect combination of brains, brawns, beauty, and bucks. How sad it is that we reference these attributes to decide whether we want to even give that person a chance.
I find it funny that someone who may be lacking in all these areas, would think that someone with all the four "A's" would want them. You see couples walking around and think, "How much is he paying for that girl?" Or, "She must be 'easy' or he wouldn't be with her." The fact is, each party brings something to the table which apparently the other person wants. The 3rd party may observe and not understand how that match could have possibly happened, but to those two people, they were made for each other.
Men are visual animals and women must understand that. Catch our eyes and the chase is on. So if you're a woman and you don't cut it in that looks department, what do you do? The answer is simple - you'd better make sure you are making up for your looks by excelling in other areas.
I look in the morning every morning and am reminded that I don't look like George Clooney. I'm more of a cross between Kevin James and Andy Dick.
I get my monthly bank statements and am reminded that I am not rich like Bill Gates. I'm more of a MC Hammer, without the parachute pants.
The list of my shortcomings could go on and on. The point is, I'm far from perfect. But I think I increase my desirability factor with higher scores in other areas, and I am grateful for what I do have.
My message to women who are out there looking for that perfect "sharp" guy: Look in the mirror first and ask yourself - would your ideal sharp guy be interested in someone like yourself? Remember, the ways in which you decide to measure who is good enough for you, are the same ways he will use to decide if he wants to be with you. Change how you measure others, and you will find they will be more open to you.
Oh yeah, and drop that attitude. It's a big turn-off.
Men are visual animals and women must understand that. Catch our eyes and the chase is on. So if you're a woman and you don't cut it in that looks department, what do you do? The answer is simple - you'd better make sure you are making up for your looks by excelling in other areas.
I look in the morning every morning and am reminded that I don't look like George Clooney. I'm more of a cross between Kevin James and Andy Dick.
I get my monthly bank statements and am reminded that I am not rich like Bill Gates. I'm more of a MC Hammer, without the parachute pants.
The list of my shortcomings could go on and on. The point is, I'm far from perfect. But I think I increase my desirability factor with higher scores in other areas, and I am grateful for what I do have.
My message to women who are out there looking for that perfect "sharp" guy: Look in the mirror first and ask yourself - would your ideal sharp guy be interested in someone like yourself? Remember, the ways in which you decide to measure who is good enough for you, are the same ways he will use to decide if he wants to be with you. Change how you measure others, and you will find they will be more open to you.
Oh yeah, and drop that attitude. It's a big turn-off.
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